This post follows last week’s post about How to Give Yourself A Parent Check-UP. It offers you a way to take what you assessed last time and put it into a plan of action for growth.
First, let’s consider the questions from your check-up. There were A LOT, I know. Let’s condense that information into a summary for you to use. We want to take your answers to all those questions and synthesize into an understanding of your child’s age, stage, needs and your parenting stage of development and needs (support, strategies, systems/structures).
Summary of Parent Assessment Form:
- What is my child’s age? And stage of development? What is their primary psychological need right now?
- What is my child’s biggest challenge?/need?
- What are my child’s best strengths?
- What are the primary behavioral markers on either extreme (positive/negative, intense/mild)?
- So far, what help has worked? Not worked?
- What is my stage of parenting?
- What is the primary function of this current stage of parenting?
- What stresses do I have as a parent/person?
- What strengths do I have as a parent/person?
- What support do I have?
Second, we are going to try to list out your responses above and record them in an actionable plan that will help you view your parenting role, responsibilities and relationships day-by-day.
PARENT DEVELOPMENT PLAN
- Age & Stage of your Children?
- Your Age & Stage?
- Primary Parenting Tasks & Roles?
- Schedules & Routines?
- Top 5 Rules?
- How do you care for your health? Your mind? Your body?
- How do you invest in your intellectual & professional growth?
- How do you nurture your primary relationships?
- How do you prop up and support yourself as a parent?
- What is one thing that you can focus on to support each relationship/person in your family?
- Who are your “go to” mom/dad friends?
- Who do you call when in crisis?
- What community do you rely on to support you and your family?
- What supports do you need to build/add to help you grow as a parent?
The Healthy 5!!!! ~Daily Habits for Your Health
Keep it Simple & Smart [Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic & Concrete]
- Fuel [Water, Food]
- Relationships [Family, Social, Support]: 1 Focus/Activity Per Person
Last, I want you to pick your ONE THING that helps you parent in the way that you think MATTERS MOST. What is the one action from above that keeps you fueled, supported, and positively parenting your particular child.
MY ONE THING THAT MATTERS MOST DAILY is: _________________________
Do this ONE THING Daily!